Saturday, May 25, 2013

Mom's So Stubborn…

Thanks to Roman May

My mom has got to be the most stubborn person on the planet. My dad died about 2 years back and we’ve been really gracious in letting mom stay at their old house but now that she’s getting so immobile it’s just not safe for her to be there alone. I know she misses dad and they’ve lived in that same house for 50 years but you know, sometimes you just don’t have a choice. My mom can barely get around with a walker and though I try to do what I can for her I live about 3 hours away and I can’t make it out there every single week to see her. I spend a lot of time sending her emails about things like and great assisted living facilities in her area but I worry that she’ll never go willingly into a house like that. My brother and I have been talking about what to do – we both think it’s time mom moved to a more healthy facility whether she wants to or not. She’s really hard headed though and I know trying to get her to give up the house is going to be an uphill battle. It’s for her own safety, though, and even if we have to get power of attorney over her then that’s just something we’re going to have to do. I love my mom and sometimes she’s not capable anymore of knowing what’s best for her. I hate to have to make her the child and me the parent but when your parents get to this age sometimes you just don’t have a choice. I want to do what’s best for her and also what will make her the happiest but sometimes those two things are mutually exclusive. I wish dad was still around for me to talk to about this stuff because he always had the best, most level-headed advice, but since he’s been gone it’s gotten harder and harder to deal with mom.

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